It's been a while, I know. The last days of summer have been busy for this Lesbian Bride and on Friday my partner and I are headed off on a 11 day road trip out east.
But that doesn't mean that wedding hasn't been on my mind. On the contrary. Among other activities, I've started looking for a dress.
I know. I know. The wedding is still a year away. However, having been attempting to clothe my body for the past 33 years, I am well aware of what a difficult task it is.
1. I am plus sized. Very plus sized. And while I certainly do plan on losing some weight before the big day. Even if I lose 50 lbs, I'm still going to be plus sized.
2. For personal reasons I need a high back. I don't mind exposing the ladies up front a bit, but my back needs to be mostly covered.
3. I want a cap sleeve if at all possible because I get hot easy, but am not super comfortable without anything on my arms/shoulders.
4. The dress does have to fit my tastes. Which aren't actually that picky, but I do have some preferences.
5. I don't have a big budget. But this isn't that hard of one to meet since I'm not necessarily looking for a super formal wedding dress. Just a dress a bit more special than I would usually wear.
Personally I don't think this is a very demanding list, but after looking at roughly 2000 dresses, and that is not an exaggeration, I have seen exactly one that might work. But since its viewed online on a skinny model and is nonrefundable if I buy it, its kind of hard to imagine shelling out a big chunk of change on something that I am just considering settling for because its the only one that is sort of ok.
Now don't worry. I have a year, so I'm not going to jump on this sort of ok dress just yet. My point just is, after looking at around 2000 dresses and only finding one that was sort of ok, I'm feeling like this is going to be sort of a hopeless task.
PS. If you were wondering. The hardest criteria from my list to mee is the #2. The high back. And that one is non-negotiable.
You can add a back to a dress that doesn't have one. They add stuff to the front of dresses to make them less low cut, so they must be able to do that to the back too.
ReplyDeleteyou can always have a jacket made for the dress. I would talk to a dress maker and see about designing and having your dress made. Talk to Mt Mary's fashion school, there might be someone there that would love to take you on for their spring project.
ReplyDeleteI've gotten lots of comments here and on FB that suggest I look into having it made. So I think that is what I might try. Thanks everyone!
ReplyDeleteOh, and as for the Mt. Mary idea, that is a great one, except...Its a catholic school. So i'm not entirely certain they'd be down with doing one for lesbian wedding. I could be wrong. But it does seem like that might not be the best place to go looking for someone!